Category Archives: Loss and Grief
To My Sun-Loving Yogi (grieving my dog)
No matter how many times I say to myself, “She had a good, full life,” [...]
Grief in the Body (why movement feels impossible & why it matters)
Why Movement Is Both Impossible and Essential Grief doesn’t just happen in your mind or [...]
Emotional Pain (when “sit with your feelings” feels impossible)
“Sit with your pain, be with it,” he said.I smiled, screaming inside:“You have no frickin’ [...]
7 Types of Grief That Exist (ready or not)
Grief doesn’t follow the neat timeline they sold you. It’s not five stages you graduate [...]
When Grief Needs Company
Wolves keep showing up in my mind for one reason. When a pack loses one [...]
Grieving Someone Who Is Still Alive (ambiguous loss)
Into the Silence of Broken Bonds There’s a kind of loss that has no funeral, [...]
This Is Going to Take a While
I saw a documentary about elephants. Late, volume low. There was a scene where one [...]
Acceptance Isn’t Peace (the exhausting truth about accepting loss)
Acceptance (barefoot through brambles) For months I kept doing this stupid trick. I’d wake up [...]
When Winter Whispers My Name
Winter arrives quietly. First with a chill, then with all those feelings we thought we’d [...]
Through Grief’s Tender Heart
For moments when you seek a deeper connection, let this be the place where words [...]
Hear Me (in the silence we speak)
In the Silence, We Speak Sometimes the most honest conversations happen when nobody’s talking. Not [...]
That Changes a Person (living with someone else’s pain after they’re gone)
You still check. That may be the strangest part. A face changes slightly and your [...]
A Scent of the Last Breath (saying goodbye to JoJo)
I had a bouquet of lilies on the side table when JoJo died. Their smell [...]
Do That (how to be gentle with yourself when everything hurts)
When Gentleness Feels Impossible I wrote this on a particularly bad night when I couldn’t [...]
Resentment in Grief (when you’re angry at everything that still exists)
Grief makes you angry at stupid things. At people who still have what you lost. [...]
What Dogs & Cats Teach Us
Paws in Presence 🐾 Embracing the Now I watched my dog Doof yesterday (really watched [...]
The Healing I Can Hold
Resilience At My Fingertips Back then, when the hard days felt endless, and even now [...]
No Proper Records (How much emotional pain can one heart take?
How much pain can one heart take? I’ve tried to measure mine. In sleepless nights [...]
Self Care During Grief (when being kind to yourself feels impossible)
Embracing Self-Kindness in the Cold of Loss One thing I learned is that kindness towards [...]
Touch Hunger (when you’re eating your loneliness)
Midnight. You’re standing in front of the refrigerator, hand on a block of cheese you [...]